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Wanted to Go Home

While supervising a high-rise rental facility I had the pleasure to meet many well-informed and compassionate people. One such lady was the daughter of one of my tenants. Our first meeting was when she stopped in the office to pay her Mothers rent and introduced herself in the process. It was friendship at first sight. On this visit she stayed thru the winter months helping her Mother settle into a new life style that was being forced upon her by physical issues that were happening in her life. Her Mother was now confined to either the wheel chair or the bed and both of these choices didn’t agree with her, but she put the best face on it she could. She still wanted to be independent and had every intention in her mind to return to the way she used to be. Driving wherever she wanted to go and taking care of herself. So she kept her car as a goal to return to, when the time was right. But sadly that wasn’t going to be in her future. Every time I saw her she appeared more frail then the time before.

Her Mother still retained ownership of her family home and rented it out only to keep the bills paid and upkeep done till she could return home and resume her normal life again.

Offered Home for Care

Before this winter was over her Mother was one hundred percent bed ridden. During that period of time her daughter stopped in the office and indicated her Mother was dying and wanted to go home and spend her remaining time with the memories of her loving husband and children. She said her Mother offered the family home to her if she would care for her till she passed away. She the daughter with tears in her eyes told me she had her own family in California and they were pleading with her to return home and bring Grandma with her to stay with them. She said her Mother smiled because they wanted her but insisted on spending her last days in the only home she has ever known. When she and her husband married they moved in with her parents and then eventually gained ownership of the house.

Partnership with Care Giver

My new friend gave her Mother the last wish she wanted and arranged for someone to live with her in the family home. The lady that agreed to care for her Mother was well known to me and was a wonderful person for the job. This caregiver had the patience of Jobe and the soul of a person dedicated to God. The daughter wanted her Mother to experience the best and because of that offered the caregiver a deal she couldn’t refuse. For everyday that she cared for her Mother she received a certain percentage of ownership of the family home. She was required to live in five days a week and then got two days off to return to her apartment. A temporary caring service provided someone on the weekends.

She Got to Go Home

This arrangement lasted six months and ended one day when she was found dormant in bed with a picture of her husband laying at her side. He daughter returned to handle the final arrangements and we had an opportunity to talk, hug and say good by to her Mother.

I have come to the conclusion that creative compromise is the greatest approach to leaving this earth.

Don L. Terrill

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